What You Resist Persists
You have probably heard of this statement, "what you resist persists". But how does this apply to you and your life? Most of us are often not aware when or what we resist; this page will reveal some of this to you.
Whatever uncomfortable things repeat themselves in your life show you where you are neurotically resisting desirable personal growth. Are you still bothered by some family member's behaviors/words? Still being bothered shows you are resisting. Are you still bothered by situations in your past? You are resisting fully resolving that past. You are resisting desirable growth if you often demonstrate at least one of the following: impatience, stubbornness, lateness, arrogance, procrastination or self-deprecation.
From the above, you realize that I would consider you to be resisting a lot. Yes! Almost all of us do that. No big deal. We need our resistances, every one of them, to protect ourselves at this moment in time. Resistances need to be tackled one by one in a sequence all your own; the other resistances not up for tackling had best be acknowledged and put aside for now.
Common resistances we think we "should" have. 1.Anger over certain societal difficulties (sexism, racism, homophobia, the latest Florida presidential election results) 2.Discomfort and worry about societal violence. 3.Specific large amounts of psychological pain when we are left by someone dying/leaving. By all means claim these resistances to your breast; but also accept that that is your UNHAPPY choice. This is the disliked question again of "do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?" But the question is valid; your resistance will push you to "be right". More on this topic later on the Beyond Preferences page.
In summation, we need our resistances, even our neurotic ones; but to maximize our happiness and our potentials we need to weed the neurotic ones out one by one by changing our emotions, thinking, and spirituality.