To tap into God's love because you "should" or because that would be "better" is, in my opinion, using God's love in an unhealthy way. (Please read more about the word "should" in later chapters; this word often traps the unwary and leads millions astray.) Tapping into God's love in an attempt to feel better is a treadmill that helps one avoid or cover over difficult feelings in the present moment. Similar difficult feelings will usually arise repeatedly in the future, unless one can resolve them by psychological means. The process can become so automatic that folks so ensnared even fail to recognize they are bothered or upset. Thus, not only do they get the good feelings of God's love as a pacifier, but they also give themselves the praise for being "so spiritual" as a second pacifier. For anyone who taps into God's love with any regularity, there is a significant probability that such behavior is becoming addictive.
So - what are the best uses for feeling God's love and/or sending it along to others? Two circumstances that do call for tapping into God's love are when healing others (especially when using bodywork) and when surrendering to God because one recognizes a lack of knowledge and capabilities. (I also often tap into it when approaching wild or domestic animals; their responses are often quite different from what might be expected.)
© 2008 by Thayer White
Finding Your Soul in the Spirituality Maze
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