Know this first: it is your ideas and beliefs about love that are keeping love away from you. You must change them. Also, it is not recommended that you try to manifest your soul mate or a long-term-relationship. Why? Because if you try that out of neediness rather than real readiness, you will manifest love all right, neurotic conditional love. Haven't you had enough of that type of sick exchange? Instead, my recommendation is to spend your efforts on increasing love in all areas of your life, particularly where you have difficulties loving. If you really want just a great new sex partner, then that should be rather easy to manifest; just don't presume that new great sex partner is anything but a short term affair. The below two scenarios show why I don't recommend trying to manifest a long-term significant other or a soul mate.
Suppose your soul has plans for you to finally get together with Mr./Ms. Right two years from now. Moreover, suppose there is much necessary individual growth work, in order for you to be ready for him/her. If you manifest a relationship now, then this individual work is delayed and the arrival of Mr./Ms. Right in your life is delayed.
Or, consider the possibility that you are trying to manifest a new relationship out of neediness for touch, for companionship, for sex, for love or to avoid emptiness. If neediness is part of your motivation, you will no doubt manifest a relationship that repeats your old sick patterns.
The above two scenarios are likely to be unwanted, yet they will be the all-too-common result for those who try to manifest a significant other.
© 2008 by Thayer White
Finding Your Soul in the Spirituality Maze
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