Why The Secret and the Law of Attraction Often Fail

Excerpt from Chapter 1 - Overview

The most popular New Age teachings these days proclaim that you can have what you want (if you visualize it right) and what you want must happen because it is the law of attraction (or it is often called the secret.) If you ask your friends and acquaintances about their experiences, you will discover the unwanted truth that most of the time for most people the law does not work. This might have two causes, not doing the manifestation steps right or not allowing for other possibilities that might invalidate the law of attraction.

The law of attraction is commonly presented as the supreme law. And it has been shown that human intention can invalidate certain physical laws. For example, in current physics experiments the presence of an observer changes the outcome of experiments. And how about the many people who have successfully tried fire-walking with no damage to their feet? What about other physical plane laws such as gravity or genetics? The law of attraction might or might not supersede these physical plane laws, but I know of no proof yet.

My opinion is that the law of attraction (which attempts to manifest the wishes of your conscious adaptive neurotic personality) will fail whenever getting what you want goes contrary to what your soul has planned for you. If your soul has poverty lessons for you, then trying to manifest a million dollars will probably fail. If your soul wants you to learn the psychological lessons associated with being overweight, then trying to attract a slender body for yourself will fail unless you address those lessons. And if your soul has planned for you to meet Mr. Right next year, then your attempts to manifest a relationship now will often produce no relationship right now or an inferior relationship that can delay the final appearance of Mr. Right.

But, do not let my words cause you to stop trying to get what you want by following the principles of the law of attraction. It may work for you. It may not. You can change course if what you want does not manifest. Chapter 7 contains my many suggestions for more effectively "getting what you want."

"The will is free;
  Strong is the soul and wise and beautiful;
The seeds of godlike power are in us still;
  Gods are we, bards, saints, heroes, if we will!"

Matthew Arnold, 1822-1888

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© 2008 by Thayer White
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